Don't take it personally
When somebody is telling me what I am doing wrong, or stating an opinion that I don't agree with, don't take it personally. Their analysis of me (or a situation) is an expression of their own needs and values. Often it has nothing to do with me, and everything to do with them.
And the same is true in reverse. When I am annoyed or upset at somebody else, or a situation, this is usually not about them. It is usually about me, and what feeling or need that I'm not receiving. It's time to intercept the harsh words about to come out of my mouth and talk about my needs instead.
Intimidation, anger, demands, crying. All of these things are just their needs which are not being met. If I can help them unpack this and feel heard, I may be able to help discharge some of the tension and help them get what they want, without giving up what I want.
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- 119.024 NVC - Don't take it personally >> 116.045 Life Lessons - If you ever have the urge to reply in a mean way
- 119.024 NVC - Don't take it personally >> 119.023 NVC - Get what you want by helping them get what they want
- 119.024 NVC - Don't take it personally >> 125.009 Books - Nonviolent Communication - Marshall B Rosenberg
- 119.030 NVC - The ability to observe without evaluating is the highest form of intelligence >> 119.024 NVC - Don't take it personally
- 119.044 NVC - re. Emotional outbursts >> 119.024 NVC - Don't take it personally
- 119.057 NVC - Am I angry - Wake up, your emotions are hijacking your brain >> 119.024 NVC - Don't take it personally
- 119 Communication >> 119.024 NVC - Don't take it personally
- 119.041 NVC - Most other people are not good communicators >> 119.024 NVC - Don't take it personally
- 119.071 Communication - It takes two to argue >> 119.024 NVC - Don't take it personally
- 107.023 Philosophy - Napoleon was calm under pressure >> 119.024 NVC - Don't take it personally
- 127.029 Philosophy - Tolerant with others, strict with yourself >> 119.024 NVC - Don't take it personally
- 126.009.04 First Principles Thinking - It's not an attack >> 119.024 NVC - Don't take it personally
- 130.006 Personal Habits - Napoleon was not afraid to seem ignorant >> 119.024 NVC - Don't take it personally
- 129.003 Brand - Piss off 20 percent of people >> 119.024 NVC - Don't take it personally
- 116.096 Life Lessons - When emotions override my higher consciousness >> 119.024 NVC - Don't take it personally
- 116.098 Life Lessons - Distinguish between what I feel and what I think others feel >> 119.024 NVC - Don't take it personally