Try self-forgiveness instead of self-punishment
If I act in a way I know was wrong, and I beat myself up for it… when I tell myself I could have done better, and I won’t do it again… what I’m really trying to do is shame myself into being better next time. But positive rewards always work better!
Try self-forgiveness instead: Identify the need that was behind the way I acted and be clear that this was the reason. This simple act of thoughtfulness makes it easier to identify and be more responsible the next time around.
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- 119.051 NVC - Self-forgiveness not self-punishment to 125.009 Books - Nonviolent Communication - Marshall B Rosenberg
- 119.051 NVC - Self-forgiveness not self-punishment to 119.050 NVC - Am I talking bad about myself - I must have unmet needs
- 119.051 NVC - Self-forgiveness not self-punishment to 119.035 NVC - State your needs
- 119.051 NVC - Self-forgiveness not self-punishment to 116.049 Life Lessons - You get what you give
- 116.117 Life Lessons - The price of a mistake goes up tomorrow to 119.051 NVC - Self-forgiveness not self-punishment
- 119 Communication to 119.051 NVC - Self-forgiveness not self-punishment
- 131.007 Leadership - Blame yourself or blame no one to 119.051 NVC - Self-forgiveness not self-punishment