Lincoln didn’t argue directly, he just delayed
Lincoln never argued directly with his wife. He would lose himself in thought, find himself busy with something, go to the library (occasionally staying the whole night) until the storm had passed.
It was not dissimilar with his colleagues. He would very very rarely have a direct conflict with them, despite many good reasons to do so.
I don’t know if this is something good to adopt, much of the other learnings I’ve received are about direct-yet-empathetic communication… but given that he was one of the best communicators of all time, it seems worth thinking about.
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- 119.068 Communication - Lincoln didn't argue directly, he just delayed to 125.014 Books - Abraham Lincoln - Team of Rivals
- 119.068 Communication - Lincoln didn't argue directly, he just delayed to 119.012 Conflict - Know when to JUST STOP
- 119.068 Communication - Lincoln didn't argue directly, he just delayed to 119.004 Conflict - Choose the right time and place for a difficult conversation
- 119.068 Communication - Lincoln didn't argue directly, he just delayed to 116.096 Life Lessons - When emotions override my higher consciousness
- 119.068 Communication - Lincoln didn't argue directly, he just delayed to 116.045 Life Lessons - If you ever have the urge to reply in a mean way
- 116.053 Life Lessons - Postpone every subconscious decision to 119.068 Communication - Lincoln didn't argue directly, he just delayed
- 119.071 Communication - It takes two to argue to 119.068 Communication - Lincoln didn't argue directly, he just delayed
- 126.010 Decision Making - Make up your mind slowly and calmly to 119.068 Communication - Lincoln didn't argue directly, he just delayed
- 126.012 Decision Making - Your first reaction is outdated to 119.068 Communication - Lincoln didn't argue directly, he just delayed
- 132.003 Change - Don't drink, just delay to 119.068 Communication - Lincoln didn't argue directly, he just delayed