Is this fight actually about what you think it’s about?
Be aware of the background thoughts and experiences of your and the other person. Is this fight really about the topic you’re arguing over? Or is there some lingering frustration, or some underlying belief that is causing one of us to act or think irrationally? Oftentimes, pent up emotions cause arguments which didn’t need to happen, or can be easily resolved by addressing the original frustration.
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- 119.006 Conflict - Is this fight about what you think it's about to 125.008 Books - Constructive Conflict - Keith Wilson
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- 119 Communication to 119.006 Conflict - Is this fight about what you think it's about
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- 119.007 Conflict - Know what question you want answered to 119.006 Conflict - Is this fight about what you think it's about
- 119.008 Conflict - Paraphrase the other person in order to have an efficient conversation to 119.006 Conflict - Is this fight about what you think it's about
- 119.013 Conflict - What's behind the impasse to 119.006 Conflict - Is this fight about what you think it's about
- 119.032 NVC - Do not imply judgement to 119.006 Conflict - Is this fight about what you think it's about
- 119.040 NVC - If not sure what another person is requesting just ask them to 119.006 Conflict - Is this fight about what you think it's about
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- 126.009.04 First Principles Thinking - It's not an attack to 119.006 Conflict - Is this fight about what you think it's about